Background
Joe Webb is by far one of the funniest digital automotive professionals on the planet. If you do not believe me, check out his “Switch with Me” video.
Joe and I have never met face-to-face, but we have discussed (through the magic of technology) various automotive practices and principles of success. During these discussions, I felt Joe would be a great person to receive insight from regarding leadership and marriage.
For the next two weeks, Joe will share his insights regarding how marriages can stay together, what is love, missing leadership qualities in today’s society and the difference between leaders and followers.
Stay tuned. Joe provides some great knowledge for all.
Thanks again for your words Joe. Now, onto Joe’s thoughts on love and marriage.
Interview
What have you learned and implemented to maintain such a lasting relationship with your wife?
I met my wife a year out of college. I learned from my divorced parents that the key to sustaining a long relationship is:
- no lying
- never be too proud to say you are sorry
- an argument started by your wife can never be won and it is not truly about what she is picking at you for in the first place
- better be able to make each other laugh
What advice would you give to someone interested in getting married?
Tiger Wood’s answer is a stronger prenup. However, I’d say that you should make sure you get along with each other’s family, make sure you both agree to contribute to chores, thank them endlessly for just being them, and have enough money to do everything in the short term that will keep your lives uncomplicated.
What is the difference between listening and hearing your spouse?
In my opinion, listening is when you are told to do something and you do it (or are told something) and offer your ear and maybe later a basic response. Hearing is when you do the above and realize why she is really sharing the information with you in the first place. When you hear her, you understand her mindset. (And yes, “crazy” can be a mindset.)
Why do you think married couples do not stay together?
I believe married couples do not stay together for two reasons:
- it is too damn easy to get out of relationships — too much of an alternative
- our generation is unendingly selfish. It is the ME generation for the most part and too many people forget that marriage is not about one person.
What is the difference between love and staying in love?
Love is easy. Staying in love is hard. Love can be triggered by chemicals in the brain. However, only a heart has the power to keep you in love.
(End of part 1. Next week, part 2.)
